One of the prominent themes in A Course in Miracles (ACIM) is about others being your brother. In theory, this sounds really good but it could be difficult to put into practice. It is a very important factor to love your brother when they’re being lovable; but it’s quite another to love them when they’re not. When you make a judgment they’ve done something amiss or harmed you in some way, you won’t be willing to generally share love with them. The ego will judge them not worthy of love because they have caused you harm. This comes from the initial separation and not being worthy of God’s love. You cannot share with another what you think you do not have.
ACIM is clear: No error has occurred. No separation has happened. As you visually see another body, you assume (judgment) this person is significantly diffent, and difference means separation to the ego mind. The illusion of a separate identity is thus made real. Specialness now exists freeing the ego to generate a God who’ll “give” you the special love the other vengeful God denied during the sin of the initial separation. Specialness also also includes your brothers whom the ego uses replace the love of the vengeful God.
What does it try see another as your brother ? Let’s breakdown the components but be aware that even with one of these understandings, it will come down to your willingness to release judgment and doing the actual work of undoing the ego.
These special relationships replace the love of God. They can be love or hate relationships, but either way, they’re based on the “wrong” or “right” mind of the ego. If you do one little thing an ego judges wrong, it goes from love to hate faster compared to the blink of an eye. To believe God would do this really is to believe the lie of the ego that God is vengeful and He attacks a course in miracles You’d only attack others because you imagine exactly the same lie about yourself. These are judgments you must be willing to hand over for correction (forgiveness). Only the ego judges and attacks. You’re not your ego.
Absolutely all relationships are special and soon you choose to produce them Holy. You cannot see others as your brother if you’re involved in judgment and projection. The darkness blinds you to their light along with your own. Holy Relationships are employed by the Holy Spirit for correction of your brain (forgiveness). This makes the decision to see another as a brother an event which becomes real.
The only way any relationship becomes a Holy Relationship is, for at least one of you, to be practicing forgiveness. Seeing someone as a brother means doing this even if you are alone in the connection willing to relinquish judgment. What you do as cause will soon be your effect.
Another favorite employed by the ego to stop you from seeing another as your brother is to utilize your own personal specialness as a way to increase separation. So long as you see yourself as better, or different, you’re considered special. God’s special love will shine on you since you be noticeable by being unique.
Examples: Taller versus shorter. College degree(s) versus uneducated. Good looking versus ugly. Wealthy versus poor. Healthy versus sick.
The list continues and on and remember that each side is a trick as both are still the ego mind. You can be unique because of one’s illness just as much as having your health. Remember, the ego’s judgments are one or the other. It knows no other way.
ACIM clearly points out that you’ve to give up all judgments of others and everything in this world if you intend to go home. So long as you judge yourself or others as being special, or even different, you won’t see everyone as being a brother. Specialness, by definition, is separation as it allows you to unique. Only sameness and oneness exist in Heaven and your brothers are all the same. Judgment hides this from you.
Forgiveness and Guilt:
The Course also makes clear that what you see in another is a projection of your own guilt and therefore, the thing you need to forgive in yourself. Judgment of a brother keeps you from knowing yourself directly as it distracts you from utilizing your decision maker capabilities for correction. The tirade of judgments is merely showing you what you think you’re: A judgmental ego. Everytime you judge, this is exactly what you say you are. You deny your own personal truth.
It is really quite easy: Look at your judgments of a brother. Your light and theirs are hidden in judgment. You don’t see what you keep hidden in judgment. Be willing to withdraw from projection and judgment and hand them over to the Holy Spirit for correction (forgiveness). That is carrying it out and utilising the decision maker to find the other side of the split mind.
Hand over all judgments and soon you receive correction (forgiveness) and you will see this to be true. You’ll see another as a brother when judgment about them is gone. At that point, separation doesn’t exist since they are viewed as the same. Heaven is sameness and oneness.
We’re all Brothers:
Your decision maker is a neutral observer whose mechanism is founded on action. The concept is not enough. You are able to talk all you need; but putting it into practice is the only thing that produces a difference. Choosing to release judgments of a brother , especially during the days you never want to, is how you will come to see them as brothers.
The sole true type of difference you can make is to change your perceptions of others back again to True Perception. You have to do this while in a body. Here’s some criteria to keep in mind:
To judge a brother for not putting into practice spiritual principles means you must go back to the sections on forgiveness and guilt, and specialness. Begin from there with your personal judgments about them not doing what you think they will on the path. Hand the judgments over for correction (forgiveness) so you may be the entire light of God that shows them the way. To judge them for not putting the ideas into practice is how you feel about yourself. Ensure you relinquished all judgment towards others.
To judge a brother and project blame, anger and attack means you must just start from that place. Withdraw from conscious attack and go back to your decision maker. If you prefer peace, be willing to hand those judgments over for correction. We’re all in this together so where you start makes no difference. Anyone judging you is showing their reality just when you are showing yours when you judge. Work on turning over judgments from the degree of mind where you find yourself. That’s presence of mind.
Irrespective of where you stand, if you intend to see others as your brother , it all begins with you making your decision to see the truth. Do it sometimes, and you see it sometimes. Take action always, and you see it in all ways. Today, you imagine in separation which means you won’t have the ability to see through the illusion of the ego’s darkness and soon you take decision making action. Who you truly are is not hurt by a brother ; and you’ve not hurt them. Only the ego claims to be injured and pours salt on the wound. It’s called guilt.
We all have exactly the same wants, needs, problems and goals and our brothers walk beside us as heavenly companions in this world. See them as judgments and they’ll behave as such. See them as Holy, and you will see God reflected back at you. All that stands in your path is you handing over every judgment about a brother all the time.